As a wedding blogger, most people ask me if planning my wedding is a challenge because I have so much inspiration at my hands on the daily. In fact, it’s quite the opposite and that was a surprise to me. One of the biggest lessons in wedding planning that I’ve learned is to stay true to you as a couple—to give your gut instinct some credit and not to stray from your initial ideas. If you’re planning your wedding on your own (or even if you have an amazing planner—highly suggested if you’re not in the industry and need some guidance!), you’re planning a party, a celebration, and you want it to reflect you in every way possible. So today’s post is a bit about how we are doing that and a few tips if you’re in the process and don’t know where to begin!
The first and most important step (and a tip that I’m so lucky to have learned beforehand) is to pick your top three priorities. Are you foodies looking for a chef who prides on using local, farm fresh ingredients? Are you frequent concert-goers and love live music? Or maybe you’re a fashion hound and a designer dress is a must? Either way, pick your top three must-haves and go from there. Ours were photography, a beautiful, simple venue on the water and loads of pretty flowers. Of course, we want great food, fun music and I want a dress that makes me feel completely gorgeous too… but choosing our top three must-haves (and areas we were willing to splurge on) helped us really figure out how to set the tone for our entire day.
Secondly, take a look at your home, your day-to-day life, etc. What does your typical date night look like? How is your bedroom designed? (or what is your dream bedroom?!) Would you rather spend your money on fresh flowers every week or a new pair of shoes each month? Where is your happy place? Really dig into your life, your loves and pinpoint what means the most to you.
We love the beach and being on the ocean, so a waterfront venue was a must for us. We also wanted our venue to have clean lines, neutral backdrops and mostly white detailing, from the chairs to the walls. The Island House at Belle Mer was the best choice for us and was a venue I’d had my eye on since 2010 when I first came across it online. We also knew that we didn’t want to go crazy with decor, but instead, stick to organic, simple details like gorgeous florals (something I love brightening our house up with every week), graceful calligraphy and island-like touches. Ultimately, choosing a venue that is beautiful on it’s own will allow us to stay simple with the decor.
Photography is also so, so important to us. Well, mostly me to be honest—I blame it on my job! I’m spoiled with pretty photos everyday, so it’s kind of a given. We’ll actually be sharing our engagement photos taken by the lovely Rebecca Yale very soon!
Once you’ve decided on your top three and have defined your personal style, start to pull together some images, colors, textures and ideas. I promise, it will be so much easier to do this after step one and two! Most importantly, have fun with it. Don’t stress about making sure you have every little detail planned to perfection 10 months before your wedding. Plan as you go and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the sweet little additions you find along the way.
I’ll be doing a separate post on how we’re staying organized throughout our planning process and how we tackled our vendor list. Happy planning loves!
Florals: Rylee Hitchner via Style Me Pretty | Lace Back Dress: Rylee Hitchner via Style Me Pretty | Blush Pink Bridesmaids: Erich McVey via Style Me Pretty | Boutonniere: Delbarr Moradi via Style Me Pretty | Sheer Sweetheart Dress: Jose Villa via Style Me Pretty | Mr. & Mrs. Place Card: Patrick Moyer via Style Me Pretty | Cake: Jose Villa via Pacific Weddings | Floral-topped Chairs: Erin Hearts Court via Style Me Pretty | Lemonade: KT Merry | Robes: Aaron Delesie via Plum Pretty Sugar | Beach Bridesmaids: KT Merry | Straw Fans: KT Merry | Shoes: Caroline Joy via Southern Weddings | Invitation: Park Road Photography via Style Me Pretty | Sailboat: Plum Pretty Sugar | Floral Arrangement: Leo Patrone via Sarah Winward